***this really has nothing to do with sports, other than the fact that I've dealt with my fair share of athletes, which gives me more than an adequate platform to PREACH on this subject! Lol. So here goes...


I admire pimps. Ya, I said it. And no, not because I approve of what they do; but because they are open and upfront about doing something that most of us find detestable. Many of us don't have the courage to do that in our own lives, even though the bulk of our actions are way more marginal than selling a woman's body for profit. I'm not saying I wish we all acted like pimps in our dealings with people. But what if we all had a pimp's MENTALITY in terms of OUR OWN intentions and behavior in our relationships with others?


In terms of my own relationships, I've been in every role possible. I've been in monogamous relationships, situations where I had a #1 and another one (or two) on the side, times when I was someone's #1, and also when I was knowingly their #2. I know how the game works. I've never been a player, but I've done some very pimpish things. I can admit that because above all, one thing has always been constant in my relationships: honesty. Each person involved knew exactly what they were dealing with.


You see, a player plays games with people's emotions, time, effort, etc. They lie and they manipulate. A pimp tells those getting involved what the situation is up front, and then lets them make an informed decision about whether or not they want to participate. Sometimes the answer is yes, sometimes it's no. But if one does end up dealing with a pimp, they went in with their eyes open. I would much rather give informed consent than pretend ignorance is bliss. Anyone can lie, but it takes skills to tell the truth and still do what you want to.


Now we've all been dating that person that we thought we had all to ourselves. You know, they talk that game that sounds like genuine interest, call or come over when they say they will, are passionately intimate, and do all the little things to show that they're really feeling us. And then bam, we find out differently. Ladies maybe you've gotten that "I'm his girlfriend or baby mama" phone call or email. And fellas, maybe you've called at the wrong time or seen her out with someone else, and all the sudden realized you were "boyfriend #2". But the entire point of this is like dude, there are LOTS of men and women out there, especially these days, who don't necessarily need and/or want to be in a committed, one-on-one relationship to do the things that grown-ups do. So if you're just looking for a hook-up, why lie about it?


That is something I don't and will never understand. If you can tell the truth and still do what you want, what is the point of lying? I understand lying to your #1: your wife, husband, girlfriend, or boyfriend - although I definitely don't agree with it, I get why one might do it. But there is no need to lie to the randoms. Instead of being a player and a coward, have some respect for yourself and others, and act like a pimp! Because truthfully, they're the ones that have real game anyway! Lol.